How are you at managing self talk?
Do you spend hours each day beating yourself up? Are you hard on yourself for everything that goes wrong in your life? Do you blame yourself for being sick? When we are sick, negative self talk can easily become our default.
Negative self talk can be the death of us and it serves no purpose. When we are sick it’s easy to do. We feel horrible and we blame ourselves. You’re never going to heal from any significant illness until you stop beating yourself up and stop blaming yourself.
How do you expect to get well if you’re always focused on being sick and being so hard on yourself?
Getting well, especially from something as challenging as Chronic Lyme disease requires you to get into the right frame of mind. Chronic diseases like Lyme don’t have a simple fix. There’s no magic bullet to make you better.
We are all unique. To get better you’re going to have to spend time and effort figuring out what works best for you. You do this by trying different things. Keep searching for the right answers and don’t give up. Of course this is easier said than done.
Trying to figure this stuff out is hard. It gets frustrating when we keep trying new things and don’t always see results. I’ve been there. I know.
Just know that you have a choice. You can continue to fight for your health or accept your fate of being sick. I don’t mean for this to sound harsh but this is the reality.
Doctors can help your recovery but they can only do so much. Drugs can only manage symptoms. They don’t heal or cure anything. The power to heal and cure resides within you and only you.
This is empowering because it means you are in control of your recovery. There are many studies that show that the more control a person feels he or she has over a situation the higher the rate of healing.
So the next time that inner voice tries to derail your recovery, here are few techniques to use to shut it up.
1. Repeat a Mantra
I’m not just talking first thing in the morning. Find a mantra that resonates with you and anytime that inner voice tries to speak up without your permission repeat your mantra. My personal favorite is, “I love myself, I love myself, I love myself.”
Even if you don’t love yourself, give this a try. Say it enough and eventually you will. When you love yourself you always do what is in your best interest. I got this idea from Kamal Ravikant’s book, “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It.” It’s a really quick read and has helped thousands of people, including me.
2. Watch It Float Away
Another technique is to take a problem that you have been dealing with that has been weighing heavily on you. Visualize yourself taking a deep breath and blowing your problem into a balloon. Blow up the balloon until you’ve blown your entire problem out of your body. Tie off the balloon and watch it float away. Watch it float off into the distance and get smaller and smaller until you can no longer see it.
3. Change Your Internal Communication
When it comes down to it most of us have poor internal communication. Your brain believes whatever you tell it the most. So the next time you find yourself giving yourself a hard time, replace, “I just can’t seem to get better” or “I’m tired all the time,” with, “I feel great and get a little better each day.”
Your subconscious mind believes anything you tell it as long as you tell it long enough and convincingly enough. It doesn’t matter if you feel that way or not. Like Gandhi said, you will become whatever you think about most. So tell yourself how good you feel. This keeps your mind on the path to healing and recovery.
For more on improving your internal communication read, “What To Say When You Talk To Yourself”, by Shad Helmstetter
4. Write Down Your Problems
Just the act of writing down your problems can get them out of your head. I’ve done this exercise first thing in the morning and it’s very effective. Have a pen and notepad by your bed and first thing when you wake up start writing whatever is on your mind. Don’t worry about it making perfect sense. No one is going to see this but you.
Just write whatever comes to mind, like I can’t believe so and so said that to me the other day. Try writing out 1 – 2 pages. This is a great way to get negative thoughts out of your head before starting your day. Once you’ve completed this write down 3-5 things that you are grateful for and start your day on a positive note.
5. Give Your Inner Voice a Name
Come up with a silly name like Bozo and anytime your inner voice starts giving you a hard time, tell it, “that’s enough out of you Bozo!”, or “seriously Bozo, you expect me to believe that nonsense?” This helps break the pattern and lets you stop taking your inner voice so seriously.
Healing requires a lot of effort. It’s a conscious choice to eat better, cleanse and nourish your body, and think better thoughts. Use these techniques to keep your recovery on track and keep your mind focused on your healing and getting better.Remember, you have the power within you to heal. Click To Tweet